Behind Closed Doors: What Domestic Abuse Really Looks Like Today

When people hear the phrase “domestic violence,” many imagine bruises, broken bones, or emergency calls in the middle of the night. But for many victims, the harm they experience is far more subtle—and far more hidden.

At Southern Valley Alliance, we’ve walked alongside thousands of individuals impacted by abuse. And one of the most dangerous myths we continue to fight is this: “If I can’t see it, it must not be that bad.”

Abuse Doesn’t Always Leave a Bruise

Domestic abuse comes in many forms. It may look like:

  • A partner who tracks every dollar spent

  • Someone isolating their spouse from friends and family

  • Threats, intimidation, and relentless criticism behind closed doors

  • Taking away car keys, monitoring text messages, or deleting job opportunities

In fact, emotional and financial abuse are two of the most common forms we encounter. They can leave invisible scars—ones that affect a survivor’s self-worth, financial stability, and long-term independence.

It Happens Here, Too

Domestic violence isn’t just a problem in faraway places. It happens in every zip code, including ours. Just last year, SVA responded to hundreds of crisis calls from individuals in our local communities.

Often, survivors tell us the same thing: “No one knew.”

And that’s part of the problem. If we don’t talk about the warning signs, we miss the opportunity to help.

What You Can Do

This summer, we’re asking our community to look more closely. To recognize the red flags and to speak up.

You can start by learning:

  • The warning signs of emotional, financial, and psychological abuse

  • How to safely support someone who might be experiencing abuse

  • What services Southern Valley Alliance offers for those in crisis

If you or someone you know needs help, call our 24/7 Crisis Line: 952-873-4214

Together, We Can Make the Invisible Visible

Raising awareness is the first step to creating a safer community for everyone. By understanding the hidden faces of abuse, we become better friends, neighbors, and advocates.

This month, help us shine a light on what’s been kept in the dark.

Learn the Signs of Abuse 

Casey Fuerst